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| xpress | Posted – 4/11/2006 3:27:08 PM | show profile | email poster Why are young girls and teens turning to MySpace and representing themselves as slutty sexual objects when they really are not? What is going on? Email me if you are a psychologist or author who could shed light onto this. I am working on a query for a teen magazine. |
| hank | Posted – 4/11/2006 3:58:26 PM | show profile Finally. Something interesting around here. I'm not a psychologist or a qualified author, but I am both perplexed by and curious about this phenomenon. Especially since I didn't know about it until this thread. I can't comment further until I go to MySpace and check it out. If I never return, give my regards to Printingman if I never come back. |
| beenthere | Posted – 4/11/2006 4:38:33 PM | show profile A friend of mine has a 16-yr-old daughter who posed in a strapless bra, in a tank top with her breasts pushed up and another shot of her from behind only wearing jeans leaning against a wall with her ass sticking out. And the background was that I'm in love with a stripper song. Great message to be sending out . . . and the comments from the ''boys'' were even more appalling, about how they're going to nail her if they had the chance. He said his heart dropped when he saw the photos. I asked him what he would've thought if it wasn't his daughter, would he have been turned on? It's the whole phenomena of being a sexual object to attract attention. Because, let's face it, most guys will take a piece of ass over a woman who can hold a conversation. The teens are just understanding this dynamic and replicating it. It's disgusting and I feel for these girls because they don't fully understand what they are doing. And, like I told him, she's going to be a party where she'll be drinking, the guys who have seen her online will cut her off from the herd and she will get hurt. |
| redheadedone | Posted – 4/11/2006 4:56:48 PM | show profile It's not only teens. I woman I know recently posed in her underwear for her friendster picture. This same woman doesn't understand why the men she meets only want to F** her. I don't know what's sadder; the idea that many adult women feel that the only way to attract someone online (and that's an entirely different thread) is to pose sluttishly or that young women, who supposedly have more opportunities and who are supposedly more accepted for being themselves have to fall into that stereotype to meet guys. And what's really sad for both groups is that neither thinks of the implications of what they're doing. More than likely, in their minds, they are thinking ''romantically'' and not sexually. |
| Purplefish | Posted – 4/11/2006 5:37:29 PM | show profile | email poster Much needed topic Yesterday's Oprah show was related to this very subject. You might want to check out her website. I don't think you will find this on the site but the psychologist she had on compared what is happening to young girls to what happens with other oppressed people such as slaves. What she said is if a group is oppressed long enough they begin to participate and perpetuate their own oppression. Women have been sexualized forever, we have been taught by the images we see in the media (all media) that sexuallity trumps brains. Consequently we are seeing a generation of girls who are participating in their own abuse. I recently had an associate of mine tell me that he has been told by young guys that the girls are doing more than just appearing slutty on myspace ans similar sites. He has been told how easy it is for guys to hook-up with these girls. Apparently it is as easy as asking. ------ SDF Susan@BeaconCreative.net |
| xpress | Posted – 4/11/2006 5:57:27 PM | show profile Thank you all for the responses. This is definitly a topic I want to explore. I think, in my experience, these myspace sluts are good girls who do good in school, who are not promiscuious, and who are not doing drugs. But for some reason, on myspace they project this image of being the teenage Kate Moss. My sisters friends have myspace pictures in BRAS and THONGS. I know them personally and they are sweet and shy, and probably virgins. PLEASE, email me or get your friends to email me your stories to include in my query. I also saw the Oprah episode. I have been thinking about this topic for a while and the Oprah episode pushed me to actually get it done. Myspace was not mentioned, and I believe it should have. Sometimes the Oprah show gets caught up in promoting books and cds (like it did yesterday) instead of focusing on the real issues. I thought the show topic was really important, and I think the message I got and the topic I want to explore is why are teenage girls projecting an image that is not really who they are. |
| overthehillwriter | Posted – 4/11/2006 6:16:02 PM | show profile | email poster My friend was shocked when her daughter's boyfriend asked her (the daughter!) to take a pic of herself in her bikini -- just her torso and legs -- and put it on her myspace. She did -- and saw messages on her boyfriend's site from his friends about how lucky he was and how easy it would be to f** her. |
| overthehillwriter | Posted – 4/11/2006 6:17:03 PM | show profile | email poster continued from above -- this from a girl who is sweet and shy and still a virgin at 15. |
| overthehillwriter | Posted – 4/11/2006 6:19:05 PM | show profile and hank, shame on you. Lascivious comments about teenage girls (minors) are sad. |
| hank | Posted – 4/11/2006 6:40:04 PM | show profile Agreed. Very sad. MyWhat? Never heard of it. By the way, can anyone recommend a lawyer? Not for me, but for my friend. He's in...trouble. |
| abel tasman | Posted – 4/11/2006 11:39:24 PM | show profile So there's been a rash of stories lately that focus on nothing new going on--teenage sex, pedophilia, etc--but somehow because it's linked to MySpace, it's news. This seems like just another one of those, unless you can explain how the phenomenon of girls representing themselves as sluts is suddenly new and different because they're doing it over MySpace. Just because an article will sell doesn't mean it's an article worth writing. My $.02. |
| xpress | Posted – 4/12/2006 12:56:20 AM | show profile | email poster thank you for your input. My view is that girls who are good, who go to good schools, who live with great families, who are not ''sluts,'' are promoting themselves as such on MySpace. I don't think this was an issue before MySpace, how else would this have happened? I get what you are saying about pedophiles, MySpace or not, they will be preying on kids....but how would a teenage girl get images of her wearing a bra and thong around to her friends and strangers without myspace? I am really interested in your answer...thanks! |
| overthehillwriter | Posted – 4/12/2006 1:35:50 AM | show profile | email poster You're right, xpress .. and the weird thing is that the ''anonymity'' that the internet seems to offer seems to give teens (and adults, sadly) permission to say and show intimate things, terrible things, rude things that they would never say to someone's face. On this (or any) board, for example ... Of course, the teens don't cover their tracks real well, so it's easy to figure out who's who, and for parents to review it all -- sometimes to their horror. |
| hank | Posted – 4/12/2006 10:54:19 AM | show profile Much a'bicker over slutty teenagers. More proof high school never really ends. And I suggest family counseling. I'm just putting that out there and am not making any accusations...I just suggest family counseling. Lord knows my family could have used some. I suppose I was the MySpace slut of the brood, too. 'Cept I'm a dood and there was no Internet in the 80's (thank God). We did have Dead shows, though (thank God). |
| belinda | Posted – 4/12/2006 11:31:17 AM | show profile >>I don't think this was an issue before MySpace<< Yeah, well, for years I've been able to walk down to the local ''nice'' grade school and see all the ''nice'' little Britney wannabes, with their bleached-blond hair, makeup and midriff-baring, ass-baring clothing picked out, paid for and let out the door by their ''nice'' parents. At least MySpace is only electrons, not flesh and blood. If the girls on MySpace lack self-respect, ask their parents why. |
| xpress | Posted – 4/12/2006 12:04:33 PM | show profile yes that is true belinda. But MySpace reaches a much farther audience. My own MySpace (no nude pics included) has been viewed 349 times. |
| dec423 | Posted – 4/12/2006 1:10:13 PM | show profile I don't think this phenomenon is new or unique with Myspace, xpress. I do think the Internet has ushered in a new ability for young girls to get attention (and gifts) from anonymous, pervy strangers, but there have been ''cam whores'' posing in front of their computers for internet strangers since 1998 or so. Before it was Myspace, it was facebook, before facebook, friendster, before friendster, livejournal, and before that, you had to be technically savvy enough to host your own webpage or you used one of many, many other services that have existed throughout the years. The Myspace thing has been really over-covered and frankly, is kind of boring. I'd find a new angle. |
| beenthere | Posted – 4/12/2006 1:21:25 PM | show profile I think there is a difference with MySpace in that it has become almost yawnish. Meaning that everyone is doing it. It is no longer considered slutty as a high school girl to pose in a provacative way, let alone nude. I remember the ''sluts'' at my high school. Is there such a thing today? Or are all girls fair game for sexual exploitation? Has MySpace elevated teenage girl sexuality to such a point that it *isn't a story anymore? I think that's the story. And it reminds me of a review of The Oppoosite of Sex, where the writer compared the Cristian Ricci character with the Lisa Kudrow character, explaining that Kudrow's character, although not active sexually, was completely aware of the power of sex. Ricci's character although brazenly sexual, was younger and did not fully comprehend what she was doing. |
| redheadedone | Posted – 4/12/2006 4:21:55 PM | show profile the implied message here is that it's okay for a man to sleep around, he'd never be called a slut. Instead he'd either be congratulated by his peers, or variously called a ''Playboy,'' ''Player,'' ''man about town,'' or what have you. A woman (no I am not talking about teens who barely know their own bodies), who enjoys sex is always labeled as a ''slut'' or some other derogatory term. Instead of being congratulated on her own acceptance of her sexuality the way men are. And if the men couldn't find willing women, they'd couldn't be called ''players,'' now could they? |
| fake.it.til.you.make.it | Posted – 4/12/2006 4:56:28 PM | show profile I don't think this has anything to do with women being called sluts when men aren't. Have you really looked at people's MySpace pages? There are plenty of girls on there you know in everyday life aren't ''slutty,'' but suddenly feel compelled to update their page with digital shots of themself in lingerie, bending over for the camera to show their thong-crack and practically expose their entire breasts in other pornographic poses. There are some guys that take risque photos partially revealing their ''package,'' but it's not as common. For the most part it's girls and women desperately calling attention to their bodies in a way that makes an outside observer wonder what kind of message do they exactly think they're trying to put out there. They figure sex draws people's attention, so the sexier and more risque the pictures, the more attention they get. Or something like that. ------ http://writerwannabehack.blogspot.com |
| hank | Posted – 4/12/2006 4:57:15 PM | show profile Let's be clear: women who enjoy sex are sluts. Men who service them, men like myself, are, naturally, men about town. |
| beenthere | Posted – 4/12/2006 5:39:05 PM | show profile I'm using the term slutty to define behavior that is inappropriate -- and teen girls posing like soft porn stars is inappropriate. If you are an adult do what you want. If you dress a certain way, you will attract a certain kind of attention. Most women can handle this attention and deflect it when necessary. I doubt a 16-yr-old girl has the same ability. When my friend talked to his daughter's friend's mom, who told him about her pics on MySpace, she said the reason his daughter posted them was simple: All of his daughter's friends had boyfriends and she did not. His daughter saw the pics as a way to become more popular and a way to get a boyfriend. |
| xpress | Posted – 4/12/2006 6:41:01 PM | show profile | email poster Sorry Redhead, I never meant this article to be about women being ''sluts'' and guys being something great. I am trying to find out why girls are compelled to act like this on myspace. I know a lot of the girls, and they have almost no sexual experience. I think Hank is just being obnoxious.....ignore him/her. |
| mockstreet | Posted – 4/12/2006 11:12:33 PM | show profile Myspace is a nightmare My name is JC Canneigeiter. When I was 2 weeks old, my father shot and killed my mother before he turned on the gun on himself. Growing up, I was bounced in and out of various foster homes, and abused. I've been on my own since i was 17 and started making my own music. unfortunately, i had no outlet for it. Then i foundn out about myspace. within a year of joining, i had over 320,000 fans, and 2 million hits on my page and offers from major record labels. i just signed with an indepedent investor and started my first album a few weeks ago. Then, out of nowhere, myspace delted my account. Now my investor is dropping me cause i lost my fan base which was pretty much based on myspace. If anyone is writing an article about the negative aspects of myspace (aside from the sexual predators lurking, privacy issues, etc.) - I would love to speak out. I went from homeless orphan to somewhat of a superstar thanks to myspace- and then they took it all away from me with no reason. To hear my songs, please visit www.Number1hater.com Hope to hear back from you contact me at musicfortruefans@Yahoo.com |
| redheadedone | Posted – 4/13/2006 9:53:20 AM | show profile ''I'm using the term slutty to define behavior that is inappropriate -- and teen girls posing like soft porn stars is inappropriate. If you are an adult do what you want. If you dress a certain way, you will attract a certain kind of attention. Most women can handle this attention and deflect it when necessary. I doubt a 16-yr-old girl has the same ability'' been there, wouldn't it just be easier to say inappropriate? By using the word ''slut'' you not only imply a certain behaviour, but lead the door open to complex socio-political economic tags ie a slut= pwt = lowered intelligence. What do you call a boy who's an alcoholic? A partier? Please inappropriate is a much better term than slut |
