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Topic: self-esteem
| Author | Message |
| jersey | Posted – 10/22/2006 5:03:56 PM | show profile I work with someone who is on equal footing with me as a writer, but constantly criticizes my story ideas and work. I really don't know how to deal with this. Any suggestions? |
| A~ | Posted – 10/22/2006 7:43:00 PM | show profile Hi, Does this colleague criticize you openly in front of others? Here are my suggestions: #1.) Bring this person aside and in a very measured fashion inform him or her that you don't mind criticism but could s/he please do it with more subtlety; or #2.) Water, duck's back. Just don't let him or her know it bothers you. You don't want or need to be perceived as someone who cannot take criticism, whether it's a justified perception or not. I think it's important to determine if this is something you can internalize or if it's something that has floated into office politics. It's also good to gather some reconnaissance before deciding what to do. Determine if this person is respected in the office, or if this person is considered a schmuck by the peers whose opinions you respect. ¡Suerte! |
| belinda | Posted – 10/22/2006 9:48:05 PM | show profile Don't respond. It's no fun to tear down somebody who doesn't respond, and pretty soon your colleague will stop the shenanigans. |
| eye2eye | Posted – 10/23/2006 10:17:02 AM | show profile Humor is a great thing.... Take a really low ego position... say something like this: "Oh I so appreciate your feedback. You're such an incredibly gifted writer... everything you do turns into gold. Can you give me some more tips on how to improve my writing?" Watch as this person recoils!! Sarcasm and humor are sometimes the best antidotes to a jackass. |
