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Topic: Friendship Breakups: Men Only
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| ClaraLee* | Posted – 3/1/2007 11:54:51 PM | show profile | email poster I have a separate thread on here about female friendships that go bust, but how about men? Any men out there who have been crushed by SAME SEX friendship breakups, either as the dumper or the dumpee (or perhaps it was mutual but still painful)? Friendship breakups as a whole are a big topic these days, but it's hard to find stories about how the issue affects men. I'd love to hear your tale--please feel free to email me off the board. |
| observer | Posted – 3/15/2007 5:28:52 PM | show profile | email poster i had a falling out with a close friend from college - after 10 years of being close friends. let me know if you are still interested in hearing from people on this topic. if so, please outline any questions you may have. |
| mailbag | Posted – 3/15/2007 7:24:08 PM | show profile | email poster no sob story I do find it sometimes is hard to keep in touch... especially when the male becomes a dad. (Obvious reasons! :) "You should become a father too..." however is not quite the answer. Have been told that twice. I don't know, maybe it is easier for men to drift apart because there is an idea that we don't need each other as friends, but need women instead. I think women have a better time of keeping in touch with other women. Above all of that, I will say I think it is damn hard to make new male friends as you get older. Now that is a story idea for you! :) Would think that is not the case as we all seem to move around now or try to balance career. But after 40 - what men are looking for new friends? (Besides moi?) |
| dribbledrive1 | Posted – 3/15/2007 8:38:17 PM | show profile There's a difference between drifting apart and breaking up. The former happens all the time. The latter never has. I've made many new friends in my 40s. --no sob story I do find it sometimes is hard to keep in touch... especially when the male becomes a dad. (Obvious reasons! :) "You should become a father too..." however is not quite the answer. Have been told that twice. I don't know, maybe it is easier for men to drift apart because there is an idea that we don't need each other as friends, but need women instead. I think women have a better time of keeping in touch with other women. Above all of that, I will say I think it is damn hard to make new male friends as you get older. Now that is a story idea for you! :) Would think that is not the case as we all seem to move around now or try to balance career. But after 40 - what men are looking for new friends? (Besides moi?)-- |
| ClaraLee* | Posted – 3/15/2007 11:35:40 PM | show profile | email poster I am so glad to have gotten some responses here! Observer--yes, I am very interested in your story. Basically, how it happened, how it affected you, how it compares to your romantic breakups, if you have hopes for reconciliation, and how important you think friendship (with other men) is to men. Please feel free to email me off the board. |
| gnarls | Posted – 3/19/2007 10:53:31 AM | show profile About two months before our "twentieth anniversary" I cut off my best friend. Glad I did. I'd recently moved back to my home town where he lived. I'd gotten married overseas and my wife didn't like he and his wife's endless dope smoking and tv addiction and thought they were a bunch of boring hippies with professional jobs. They didn't like her either. I also noticed my best friend was kind of a "shit-grade alpha" which meant he needed his friends to be far below the food chain. I realized he and his wife were more comfortable with me as a loser. The fact that I'd been a journalist overseas while he'd been a much-better paid PR flak made the question of top dog kind of problemmatic I felt dissed, my wife felt treated like she wasn't there during our get togethers. It got old, it got stupid. Ultimately I sent him a curt letter telling him I wasn't going to see them anymore. up till then, he'd been talking about having a special party to celebrate our friendship. I mean barf me out. I felt like an asshole, but it also felt long overdue. I hope this answers your question. |
