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Topic: poll: knowing when it's time to quit something
| Author | Message |
| TooComplacent | Posted – 4/23/2008 6:24:25 PM | show profile It could be anything. . . a job a relationship a bad habit or vice At what point does it finally click with you that it's time to stop/quit/change behavior? I'll start: I knew it was time to stop smoking when I picked up the habit again when I was really just sick of dealing with the crap at my job. |
| observer | Posted – 4/23/2008 7:37:35 PM | show profile when you realize it's keeping you from the next stage in your life. |
| caitlinkelly | Posted – 4/23/2008 8:19:55 PM | show profile When it colors the rest of your life, (you obsess about work on the weekends or you obsess about your partner while at work) and not in a good way. When you're always tired or fed up or frustrated or not listened to or you can't run because you're winded (smoking.) When your frustration/anger/depression/stuckness is so annoying you talk about it all the time, so much you risk losing your partner/colleagues/friends over it. Sometimes it helps to quit a friendship when someone is so committed to self-destructive behavior you're tired of hearing them complain all the time about its effects -- instead of them simply quitting it, whether an abusive marriage or a crummy job. Other than dealing with serious, chronic or terminal illness, most intolerable situations are quittable, even family. |
| TooComplacent | Posted – 4/23/2008 8:34:57 PM | show profile Good post. It's time to quit or change something when it's challenging your ethics and tempting you to be an immoral person. Some challenges of ethics are good because it will tell you whether you are a moral person, but overall, the daily challenge of tempting your ethics are bad. Thank you to whomever said quiting family is okay. I did that recently and I feel great without the burden, but guilty because it hurt other family members. |
| WordyBird | Posted – 4/23/2008 9:16:20 PM | show profile When you are constantly slightly nauseated, you can't sleep well at night, you dread going to work or seeing the person, and the matter at hand is interfering with the rest of your life. Oh, and when it interferes with your sex life. |
| HyancinthGirl | Posted – 4/23/2008 11:50:57 PM | show profile It's time to quit when it's no longer fun or you don't have the passion or excitement for it anymore or the rough patches become the norm and not the exception. And when you quit, make it a clean break. |
| caitlinkelly | Posted – 4/24/2008 8:31:50 AM | show profile TC, families operate on dynamic principles...Make the choice, for your own sake, to shift one piece of the puzzle and the rest has to move to accommodate it. Pisses everyone off. Some people thrive on conflict and the power it gives them to know you are enmeshed and embattled -- happy? Hah. There is a psychological trick called triangulation in which a miserable dyad -- a screwed up couple -- makes one of the kids the "bad guy" and projects onto them all the %%$## they refuse to see or deal with in themselves. "Family" can be some of the nastiest people in the world. Good point about ethical or moral tradeoffs. That's why it helps to have savings...you allow yourself the option to leave a job or relationship if the choices become wrong. |
| Unemployed-gal | Posted – 4/24/2008 10:08:20 AM | show profile Well said, observer. I was in a situation recently that was keeping me from moving on, so I just quit. It's made my life so much easier, not worrying about that one little thing that I'd blown out of proportion by my obsession with it. |
| anovelfate | Posted – 4/24/2008 11:47:59 AM | show profile It's time to quit watching the News when: Ann Coulter starts making sense! |
| JackieRo | Posted – 4/24/2008 12:00:25 PM | show profile Anovelfate, say it ain't so! That is one woman who has made an excellent living at manipulation. |
| nandy | Posted – 4/24/2008 2:04:30 PM | show profile It's time to quit a job: when you get in your car to go to work, and to start driving the opposite way on purpose. Or when you start calling in sick just to get out of going in because the thought of being there really does make you ill. It's time to quit a relationship: when being with the other person bores you; when you no longer trust the other person; when they take and never give It's time to stop a bad habit: when it hits you upside the head...it's BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH...it WILL KILL YOU...it is NASTY...or it's very annoying to others, and you've been told so. |
| anovelfate | Posted – 4/24/2008 4:50:20 PM | show profile Jackie < I know huh, you gotta respect that type of dedication to her bank account, but I SAY IT AINT SO! |
| voracious reader | Posted – 4/24/2008 5:52:15 PM | show profile Obviously, before it's too late. But wouldn't life be wonderful if we could clearly delienate the EXACT moment when we should do something so we could avoid those moments that make life so interesting and sooo complicated! |
| JackieRo | Posted – 4/24/2008 6:24:59 PM | show profile Anovelfate, Those GOPers do love those women who fight dirty, don't they? It's like they live vicariously through those fights, while the Dems just take whatever woman they want. Equal opportunity joking. :) |
| BurbGrrl | Posted – 4/24/2008 11:55:03 PM | show profile It's time to quit a job when you start getting teary about it and, as another poster said, dread dragging yourself in there. And a relationship when you find yourself spending more and more time at work in order to avoid having to go home and be miserable. |
