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Topic: I Just Got Hit On. Advice please?
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| PluckyPane | Posted – 5/19/2008 6:54:05 PM | show profile ladies, can i ask why on earth you feel that every cup of coffee should led to a relationship? i'm not trying to be smart, but that's what the first date/first phone call is for, to weed out the good ones and bad ones. i think there's a lot to be said for just talking with people and getting back out there without the thought of "is this guy the next husband"? i don't think there's anything wrong with just meeting people without the expectation of anything beyond that moment. besides, it does wonders to be in the company of other new people who think you're attractive. it's harmless and an ego booster. and when they start to bore you, it's usually pretty easy to get rid of them, stalkers notwithstanding. |
| wineaux | Posted – 5/19/2008 7:17:15 PM | show profile I'm with Plucky. A cup of coffee isn't signing your life, or your bank account away to a stranger to pillage. There's nothing wrong with someone who is freshly divorced to just see what's out there and connect. And, I don't think JBE is naive or a pushover. She's just a little unsure of how to tread, which is pretty understandable. Every meetup doesn't have to be life altering. It actually could just be a great way to experience new people and have a fresh chance to interact with the opposite sex. She's older and wiser than she was when she married, and meeting men now will surely give her a more discerning eye. I'm glad you figured out he was a clod on the phone, though. I don't think there'd be anything wrong with bowing out gracefully if you felt the conversation showed how little a connection you made. Be upfront and save yourself an hour that may very well be wasted with a self absorbed jack arse. |
