“Savage Love,” the dating advice column from WCP‘s syndicated Dan Savage, is pretty fabulous. This week comes a question we may not be able to relate to, but we can at last laugh (until it seeps into sad territory about body image issues).

The writer, a 19-year-old male, “is only attracted to chubby girls, though I myself am rather skinny.” He has accepted this, though he says admitting that he was into chubby girls was almost as scary as  a gay man having to come out of the closet. The problem, though, is that the girls don’t find themselves attractive, and “that is a turnoff” for the writer, who calls himself “Troubled Horndog In Need,” or THIN for short. Is he doing something wrong to make the girls feel bad about their bodies? Is it the media?

Savage’s answer: The girls are surely having trouble with “all the shit that’s been thrown at them about their bodies,” but THIN may be doing something wrong if the girls leave the relationship feeling worse about their bodies.

Savage never does address that media blame.