Posts Tagged ‘Ashley Merryman’
New York magazine’s cover story, How Not to Talk to Your Kids: The Inverse Power of Praise by Po Bronson with Ashley Merryman, paints an all-too-common picture of kids so showered with praise that they’re drowning, not swimming.
FBLA asked Merryman how the story came about and she generously wrote us a fascinating account of the piece’s evolution. Read the whole thing, as it really spells out how they worked this story.
Po and I were working on a piece on the science of parenting, that had me I doing research on motivation and perceived competence–how kids become motivated and believe they are or aren’t competent. A lot of it seemed to have to do with their interaction with parents. That got me started thinking about praise, specifically. By then, I’d seen Carol Dweck’s work referenced, in varying contexts, so I tracked down some particular journal articles that she’d written. I read two main studies, and I flipped out.
I called Po and said,”I don’t care what else you are doing. Stop right now, and read this.” He said he was working and–I didn’t even let him finish his sentence.